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How I Treated My Fibromyalgia and Anxiety with Hypnotherapy

How I Treated My Fibromyalgia and Anxiety with Hypnotherapy

When I meet new people and they ask me what I do I initially tend to get one of two reactions. Either they lean forward and ask if they heard me right or they lean back in surprise and give me a strange look. In fact, in either case, I tend to get a strange look! On the odd occasion, I meet someone who has had experience of hypnotherapy and they are usually very positive about it and go on to share their experience and tell me how much it has helped them, which is lovely to hear. The other thing that happens is that people ask me how on earth I got into hypnotherapy.


So…Here is My Story

I suppose it all started many years ago when I was diagnosed with a condition called endometriosis. At the time I was teaching in a Primary school but found that the pain I was in was making life very difficult and I was relying on stronger and stronger painkillers to get me through the day. I was also struggling with infertility and the combination of the stress from that and the pain I was constantly experiencing eventually led to depression, anxiety and fibromyalgia. Eventually, I had to give up my job and spent my days at home focused on the pain and depression. I also felt very guilty about the fact that I wasn’t working, feeling that I had let the school, my lovely little pupils and my husband and family down. I even began self-harming to try and cope with all the negative feelings. I was lost.

I was still determined to try and have a family as it was something I had always wanted and I had decided that having children would somehow make everything better! Looking back now, I am not sure what led me to think that or how I would even have coped with a baby at that time, but my husband and I tried IVF nevertheless. It was very stressful! The first attempt didn’t work at all and the second ended in miscarriage. As you can imagine, this just made the depression worse. My husband eventually left me and I lost my home on top of everything else. I ended up living back with my parents who scooped me up, took me to their house and looked after me while I tried to work out what to do next. It was not a good time but I am so thankful they were there for me.

With the help and support of my mum and dad, I took the decision to have a hysterectomy to try to cure the endometriosis and now I am really glad I did. I am still bothered now and again by pain from the internal scar tissue that couldn’t be removed, but on the whole, it made a big difference to the amount of pelvic pain I was experiencing. Of course, it didn’t help the pain from the fibromyalgia or the associated depression. I was still struggling on a daily basis, had stopped going out and seeing friends and spent a lot of my life in bed just trying to sleep the days away.

The Treatments

The doctors put me on Fluoxetine to try and alleviate the depression and anxiety and I was sent for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). I was diagnosed with Depression, General Anxiety Disorder and Social Phobia, so I was building quite an enviable list of ailments!  I found that the CBT helped a little at the time but as soon as I had had my prescribed six weeks of therapy and was left to my own devices again, my motivation went out of the window and I rapidly went downhill. I think I had CBT three times in all.

My prescription list was getting pretty long, too, what with the number of other drugs they had me on to try and help my pain levels. Nothing really seemed to help, so they just kept adding new drugs to the list and upping the doses of those I was already on. The more drugs I took, the less energy I had and the less motivation I had to help myself. Just waking up in the morning became a struggle, let alone doing anything else. I lived in a fog of pain and depression which tainted everything.

The Answer…Hypnotherapy

Eventually, probably around two years ago now, I decided that I didn’t want to live like that anymore. I knew that if I couldn’t improve my quality of life then I didn’t want to continue with it any longer. It was then that I found hypnotherapy which, it is no exaggeration to say, saved me. I am not sure exactly how I stumbled across it as it wasn’t something I had ever heard of or thought about before. My only experience of hypnosis was going to see Paul Mckenna on stage back in the 1990s and I wasn’t particularly impressed! I think I was searching the internet one night when I came across a free hypnosis download on YouTube. I can’t even remember what it was for but I found it very calming and relaxing so I searched out more and more. I began listening to downloads for depression and anxiety and found that slowly I began to feel a little better. It was as if the hypnosis was reaching a part of my mind that the CBT couldn’t reach. I now like to think of hypnotherapy as the “Heineken” of the therapy world! If you are confused by that reference (perhaps you are under the age of 40!) this old TV ad might help.

I have always been fascinated by how the brain works, about how we learn and develop and where thoughts, feelings and emotions come from. I think it started with my psychology A-Level all those years ago. So, I started looking into the psychology of hypnosis and I also came across NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and began to practise some of the techniques I read about. I found that they, too, just seemed to help to change the negative thoughts and self-talk that I had become so good at. I knew quite a lot about CBT by then, too, so I dragged out all the old notes that I had forgotten about and began to practise the CBT techniques alongside self-hypnosis and NLP. Slowly but surely things began to improve. I took courses in NLP and Hypnotherapy and eventually earned my diploma.

Along the way, I used my family and friends as case studies (guinea pigs!) to help me gain experience and I realised that they were really benefitting from the techniques, too. I was amazed at how effective the hypnotherapy was at helping with all different kinds of issues. I started “Laura Culley Hypnotherapy” in October 2016 so that I could help others out there who may be suffering like I was not so long ago. I use a combination of NLP, CBT and hypnotherapy to help my clients and teach them the little tricks and techniques that I use myself so that they can practise them at home.

My Pain Today

These days I rely much less on the drugs and instead use my mind to control my pain levels. Some days are better than others and I have by no means cured the Fibromyalgia. I am still in pain, but I cope with it. I still wear a Fentanyl patch but I am on just a quarter of the dose I was on two years ago and I am still hoping to reduce that further until I can come off it completely. I know how to relax my body and use breathing exercises to stop myself tensing up when the pain is particularly bad. As I learned to relax I realised that I used to hold my breath and tense my muscles when the pain really kicked in, which just exacerbated the pain and led to a snowball effect which would put me in bed for days.

My Depression and Anxiety Today

As the dark fog of depression has lifted, I have stopped taking the anti-depressants and instead use daily self-hypnosis and positive visualisation to relax and calm my busy mind. I practise visualising the future and seeing good things happening rather than letting the automatic negative images take over. Whenever the horrible voices start nagging at my mind, I have learned to notice them so that I can stop them and replace them with positive messages instead. I feel that after all those years of suffering, I have at last regained some control over my life and my body.

My Weight Loss

I put on a lot of weight whilst I was ill. I had very little respect for my body after the way I felt it had let me down, so I had little thought for how the food I put into it would affect me. I ate more for comfort and to try and distract myself from the negative thoughts and feelings than I did for nutrition. Also, the side effects of the drugs I was taking slowed down my metabolism and I wasn’t moving around much, so anything I did eat was not being used as it should have been.

I have used hypnotherapy to change my relationship with food and as a result, I have lost over three and a half stone in weight in the last two years. I still have a few stone to lose before I hit my target weight, but it is going in the right direction! I am sure the weight loss and the improvement in my diet have also helped to reduce my pain levels.

Below is a picture of me at my brother and sister-in-law’s wedding in 2013 before I lost the weight. I can still remember the pain I was in and how I was struggling to even stand for photos.

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At my brother’s wedding in May 2013.

It Takes Effort, People!

None of this comes easily or naturally to me and I have to work at it daily. After all, I  spent years and years becoming an expert at being anxious. I don’t mean to brag, but I am very good at being depressed, too. Automatically seeing the negative side of things and panicking over the slightest little thing also comes very easily. However, with time and lots of practice, I am getting much better at looking for the silver lining in all aspects of life, no matter what happens. I try to find at least three things a day to be grateful for rather than continuously regretting all the things I have lost along the way. I make plans for the future but I try to live in the moment as much as possible rather than putting my life on hold and believing that “things will be better when…”.

I really believe that everything I have been through has made me the person I am today and I think that goes for all of us. The illnesses, losses, pain and struggles I have faced (and continue to deal with daily) have taught me so much and led to my new found career and my passion for hypnotherapy. I would never have known all this or been able to help the people I have without first going through all that I have.

Can I Help You?

If you are struggling with any type of chronic pain, depression or anxiety, I really hope that my story gives you hope that things can get better and there are things you can do to gain back some control. Please do get in touch if you want to know more or if you would like my help. I am always happy to hear from you.




Spring Clean Your Mind

Spring Clean Your Mind

Spring is definitely here. I have even packed away my winter woollies and snow boots and dug out all my t-shirts! It is at this time of the year that we often spring clean our houses and clear the clutter. However, what about our minds and emotions? Aren’t they also due for a good clear out? April is Stress Awareness Month, here are a just few ways you can clear the clutter from your mind and reduce your stress levels at the same time.

Forgive and Forget

Are you holding onto anger or upset from a past relationship? Maybe you just cannot forgive someone for something they said or did. Have you ever thought about who you are hurting most, though? Holding onto resentment can leave us feeling stressed. Anger is a very negative emotion and effects our bodies in all sorts of ways, leading to headaches, digestion problems, insomnia, anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, skin problems, even heart attacks and strokes. So, maybe it is time you let it go for your own sake.

Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you are condoning the other person’s behaviour, you are just looking after yourself by not carrying that pain around any longer. So, make a list of those that have hurt you and be the better person. Decide today on ways you can show forgiveness and start clearing out that negativity.

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 “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha

Let Go of Stress

Make a list of all that negative clutter. What is worrying you? What is making you anxious? Split that list into two; those that you can change and those that you can’t. If you have no control over it, there is no point in worrying. Have faith that things will turn out for the best, whatever that might be. Be comfortable with the unknown and let life take its course. Burn or shred that list of worries that cannot be controlled and LET IT GO!

Now look at the list of things that you could do something about. Prioritise it and start working your way through it, crossing them off one by one. Even if you just tackle one a day, you will feel as though you are taking control and getting those anxieties out of your mind. Now that it is on paper, put it to one side as you don’t need to carry it around with you day after day.

It is also worth spending some time each day on relaxing both physically and mentally. Listen to the free mp3 on my website (sign up here) to give both your mind and body that time it needs each day to wind down.

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Focus on Future Goals

What were your resolutions in January? Have you managed to stick to them? If not, don’t worry. Spring is a time of regrowth and renewal and a great time to start again. Tomorrow is a new day; a new start.

Spend some time relaxing and visualising yourself achieving all those things that you planned for the future, whatever that might be. It could be health related, such as giving up smoking. If so, see yourself as the non-smoker you want to become and set that goal firmly in your mind. Maybe you want to lose weight? If so, visualise yourself as the slimmer version of you, wearing the clothes that you dream of wearing. How will you move? How will you feel?

Perhaps your goal is work-related? Are you starting your own business or hoping for that great promotion? See it in your mind and act as though it will happen. Maybe write a page on the person you will be by the end of this year. Write it as though you are in December, looking back on 2017. Where are you? How did you get here? What steps did you take to achieve your dream?

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Whatever your goal, see yourself achieving it and do this daily as a great meditation exercise.

Mind Massage

If you would like any extra help with relaxation, please think about coming to one of my mind massage sessions. It is a great way to experience hypnotherapy for the first time and give your mind a little mini-holiday while de-cluttering and putting everything back into perspective.

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What is PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)?

PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, is a condition that can occur following the experience or witnessing of  life-threatening events such as military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious accidents, or physical or sexual assault in adult or childhood. Most survivors of trauma return to normal given a little time. However, around 30% of people will have stress reactions that do not go away on their own, or may even get worse over time. These individuals may develop PTSD. People who suffer from PTSD often relive the experience through nightmares and flashbacks, have difficulty sleeping, feel detached from real life and unable to communicate with friends and family.  These symptoms can be severe enough to significantly impair the sufferer’s daily life.

Who suffers from PTSD?

Anyone who has witnessed a severe trauma could be susceptible to PTSD and it is estimated that up to one in 10 individuals may be affected by the condition at some stage during their lives.

However, some individuals who work within certain professions, and some individuals who exhibit certain risk factors may be more prone to develop the condition than others.

According to some studies the condition is present in approximately one in two female rape victims, one in three teenagers who have survived a car accident, two in three prisoners of war and one in five fire-fighters.

Those who have previously suffered from a mental health condition or who have a family history of mental health concerns are also considered to be at a ‘high risk’ of developing PTSD after being exposed to a harrowing event. It is estimated that up to four in five PTSD sufferers are affected by other mental health problems

What are the Symptoms of PTSD?

In some individuals the symptoms will develop very shortly after the event, but for others the onset may be delayed by a number of months, or even years after the trauma first occurred. People with PTSD usually experience three main kinds of symptoms:

1. Reliving the Trauma

The sufferer may feel as though they are reliving the trauma in some way. There are a number of ways in which people may relive a trauma. They may have upsetting memories of the traumatic event which can come back at any time, day or night, completely out of the blue. At other times the memories may be triggered by a traumatic reminder. Examples of this may be when a soldier who has returned from combat hears a car backfire, a motor vehicle accident victim drives by a car accident or a rape victim sees a news report of a recent sexual assault. These memories can cause both emotional and physical reactions. Sometimes these memories can feel so real it is as if the event is actually happening again. This is called a “flashback.” Reliving the event may cause intense feelings of fear, helplessness, and horror similar to the feelings they had when the event took place. Many sufferers of PTSD suffer extreme nightmares or night-terrors.

2. Avoidance and Numbing Symptoms

Individuals with PTSD may try to avoid situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. They may avoid going near places where the trauma occurred or seeing TV programmes or news reports about similar events. They may avoid other sights, sounds, smells, or people that are reminders of the traumatic event. Some people find that they try to distract themselves as a way to avoid thinking about the trauma.

Numbing symptoms are another way to avoid the traumatic event. People with PTSD may find it difficult to be in touch with their feelings or express emotions towards other people. For example, they may feel emotionally “numb” and may isolate from others. They may be less interested in activities they once enjoyed. Some people forget, or are unable to talk about, important parts of the event.

3. Arousal Symptoms

People with PTSD may feel constantly alert and anxious after the traumatic event. This is known as increased emotional arousal, and it can cause difficulty sleeping, outbursts of anger or irritability, and difficulty concentrating. They may find that they are constantly ‘on guard’ and on the lookout for signs of danger. They may also find that they get startled very easily. Often, close friends or family members may notice a change in the individual’s personality.

PTSD is complicated by the fact that you may develop additional disorders such as depression, substance abuse, problems of memory and cognition, and other problems of physical and mental health. The disorder is also associated with impairment of the person’s ability to function in social or family life, including occupational instability, marital problems and divorces, family discord, and difficulties in parenting.

Complex PTSD

Complex PTSD occurs after a person has suffered years of trauma, rather than a one-off event. For example, a child who has spent years being abused by a parent or carer may end up suffering with complex PTSD.

How Does Hypnotherapy Help?

Hypnotherapy is an extremely kind, gentle and respectful method of treating PTSD as the client is relaxed and can observe themselves from a distant or dissociated perspective via a TV screen in their mind. There is absolutely no need for them to give details of the trauma or abuse if they don’t want to and they will NOT be asked to relive the traumatic event.

I use ‘The Rewind Technique’ to help PTSD sufferers as I believe it is the kindest, quickest  and most effective treatment. You can read more about The Rewind Technique HERE.

How Many Sessions will I Need?

This depends on the complexity and severity of your case as everyone is different. Some people can be treated in just one session, for others, it may take four to five, spread over weekly or fortnightly visits. We will work together to decide how many sessions you need and take things at a pace that suits you. However, you should start feeling better after just one visit.

If you think I may be able to help you with your PTSD symptoms, please contact me today and arrange an appointment.

I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Children Suffering from Anxiety

Children Suffering from Anxiety

This week is Children’s Mental Health Week. Our children seem to be under more and more pressure so, not surprisingly, anxiety is at a high level among children in the UK with 66% of year 6 primary pupils feeling that they worry “all the time”.

At the end of last year, the mental-health charity Place2Be surveyed children in the top primary year at 20 schools across England, Scotland and Wales and found that concerns about family and friends and fear of failing at school are the top causes of anxiety.

Of the 700 children surveyed, 54% worried about the well-being of their family, 48% had concerns over the well-being of friends and 41% felt anxious about school work.

In addition, 40% felt their worries got in the way of school work, almost 30% said that once they started worrying they could not stop and 21% said they did not know what to do when worried.

There was a gender divide, with 36% of girls worrying about being bullied, compared with 22% of boys.


More girls (28%) worried about their looks than boys (18%) but 24% of boys worried about being angry compared to 16% of girls.

The most common coping strategies were talking to family members (72%) or to friends (65%), while 65% of boys calmed themselves by playing computer games compared with 39% of girls.

How Can We Help?

More than 80% of the children surveyed said the best way for adults to help was to listen sympathetically and pupils said it was important to be kind to anxious classmates. .

“I give them a hug and tell them not to worry and everything is OK,” said one 10-year-old.

The charity’s chief executive, Catherine Roche, said primary school was often characterised as innocent and happy.

“But in reality we know that young children can worry about a lot of things, whether it’s something going on at home, with their friends, or even about bad things happening in the world.

“It’s perfectly normal to worry from time to time, but if these worries become more serious or persistent, it’s important that children know where they can turn for help.”

If you are worried that your child  is suffering from anxiety, it is important to talk to them about it. It is also a good idea to contact their class teacher and find out how they have been coping in school.

Hypnotherapy can really help children learn to relax and deal with the stresses and strains of everyday life. It is also a great tool for boosting self-esteem.

If you would like to know more about how hypnotherapy can help your child with stress and anxiety, please contact me for a free 30 minute consultation. I am a mobile therapist in the East Devon area, so I can visit you and your child at home in the evenings or at the weekend.



What is Hypnotherapy?

What is Hypnotherapy?

There is a lot of mystery and confusion surrounding hypnosis which puts a lot of people off. This is a shame as hypnotherapy is such an effective tool for dealing with so many issues. What do you think of when you hear the word “hypnosis”? Do you see a mysterious man waving a pocket watch in front of your face, repeating the phrase, “You are feeling very sleepy!” Maybe your mind turns straight to the stage hypnotists who appear to control the minds of their subjects and get them clucking like chickens every time they hear a bell ring?

So, What is Hypnosis?

There is no question as to whether or not hypnosis works, the problem is that science still can’t decide how it actually works, which makes it very difficult to explain!

The British Society of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis states:

“In therapy, hypnosis usually involves the person experiencing a sense of deep relaxation with their attention narrowed down, and focused on appropriate suggestions made by the therapist.”

These suggestions are often enough for a person to begin making amazing changes deep within themselves.

The following four extracts are taken from a book by  Dr Hilary Jones’, called “Doctor, What’s the Alternative? He explains hypnotherapy really well, in simple terms that are easy to understand.

Definition of hypnotherapy

“Contrary to popular belief, hypnosis is not a state of deep sleep.  It does involve the induction of a trance-like condition, but when in it, the patient is actually in an enhanced state of awareness, concentrating entirely on the hypnotist’s voice.  In this state, the conscious mind is suppressed and the subconscious mind is revealed.

The therapist is able to suggest ideas, concepts and lifestyle adaptations to the patient, the seeds of which become firmly planted.

The practice of promoting healing or positive development in any way is known as hypnotherapy.  As such, hypnotherapy is a kind of psychotherapy.  Hypnotherapy aims to re-programme patterns of behaviour within the mind, enabling irrational fears, phobias, negative thoughts and suppressed emotions to be overcome. As the body is released from conscious control during the relaxed trance-like state of hypnosis, breathing becomes slower and deeper, the pulse rate drops and the metabolic rate falls. Similar changes along nervous pathways and hormonal channels enable the sensation of pain to become less acute, and the awareness of unpleasant symptoms, such as nausea or indigestion, to be alleviated.”

How does it work?

“Hypnosis is thought to work by altering our state of consciousness in such a way that the analytical left-hand side of the brain is turned off, while the non-analytical right-hand side is made more alert.  The conscious control of the mind is inhibited, and the subconscious mind awoken.  Since the subconscious mind is a deeper-seated, more instinctive force than the conscious mind, this is the part which has to change for the patient’s behaviour and physical state to alter.

For example, a patient who consciously wants to overcome their fear of spiders may try everything they consciously can to do it, but will still fail as long as their subconscious mind retains this terror and prevents the patient from succeeding.  Progress can only be made by reprogramming the subconscious so that deep-seated instincts and beliefs are abolished or altered.”

What form might the treatment take?

“Firstly, any misconceptions a potential patient may have about hypnosis should be dispelled.  The technique does not involve the patient being put into a deep sleep, and the patient cannot be made to do anything they would not ordinarily do. They remain fully aware of their surroundings and situation, and are not vulnerable to every given command of the therapist.  The important thing is that the patient wants to change some behavioural habit or addiction and is highly motivated to do so.  They have to want the treatment to work and must establish a good clinical rapport with the therapist in order for it to do so.

The readiness and ability of patients to be hypnotised varies considerably and hypnotherapy generally requires several sessions in order to achieve meaningful results.  However the patient can learn the technique of self-hypnosis which can be practiced at home, to reinforce the usefulness of formal sessions with the therapist.  This can help counter distress and anxiety-related conditions.”

What problems can be treated by hypnotherapy?

“Hypnotherapy can be applied to many psychological, emotional and physical disorders.  It is used to relieve pain in surgery and dentistry and has proved to be of benefit in obstetrics.  It can shorten the delivery stage of labour and reduce the need for painkillers.  It can ease the suffering of the disabled and those facing terminal illness, and it has been shown to help people to overcome addictions such as smoking and alcoholism, and to help with bulimia.  Children are generally easy to hypnotise and can be helped with nocturnal enuresis (bedwetting) and chronic asthma, whilst teenagers can conquer stammering or blushing problems which can otherwise make their lives miserable.

Phobias of all kinds lend themselves well to hypnotherapy, and anyone suffering from panic attacks or obsessional compulsive behaviour, and stress-related problems like insomnia, may benefit.  Conditions exacerbated by tension, such as irritable bowel syndrome, psoriasis and eczema, and excessive sweating, respond well, and even tinnitus and clicky jaws (tempero-mandibular joint dysfunction) can be treated by these techniques.”

If you would like to know more about hypnotherapy, please contact me for your free half-hour consultation.

Overcoming Social Anxiety

Overcoming Social Anxiety

It is December. The festive season is upon us again and that means hours of socialising. Office parties, the work’s Christmas ‘do’, family get-togethers with people we barely see throughout the rest of the year. While, for many people, this means hours of fun and laughter, for some of us, it isn’t that easy.  I know…I speak from a lifetime of experience.

I have suffered with social anxiety since I was a young child. I don’t know whether it is something left over from a past life or just a character flaw, but I have always felt uncomfortable when meeting new people and hate being faced with a large group, whether that is people I have known for years or a bunch of strangers. While most children looked forward to the idea of social occasions, such as birthdays or school outings, I absolutely dreaded them and did whatever I could to avoid them. I was happier spending time with one or two close friends or, better still, playing alone in the safety of my bedroom or engrossed in a good book. This lead to years of being bullied, especially when we moved house and I had to join a new school. My crippling shyness was apparently mistaken as a sign of snobbery and, as we all know, children can be very cruel. The bullying made the social anxiety worse and so it went on throughout a very insecure and miserable childhood, leading to many stress related health problems and, I now believe, childhood depression.

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At a family party with my uncle Rod

As I hit my late teens and twenties I learned to cover up the shyness and insecurities and did what many of us do, I wore a mask and just pretended to be the confident, social person that I believed I was supposed to be to fit in with the rest of society. This worked well for a while, and people bought the social, confident persona. Then, I became ill with Endometriosis and Fibromyalgia. I had to give up my teaching job and spent many hours at home alone. My social life became non-existent and I forgot the art of acting confidently. Suddenly, I was five years old again and all those old feelings came flooding back, only this time they were recognised by those around me as depression and anxiety. I underwent Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) several times and on each occasion, it helped for a while, but my underlying issues were never resolved, so it was never a long-term cure for me.

Then I discovered hypnotherapy. I began to research the importance of the unconscious mind and how our main habits, thoughts and feelings reside in the part of our mind that we are not even aware of. These parts cannot be reached by talking therapies alone, or at least mine couldn’t. I started listening to hypnotherapy downloads, which helped a little, but were limited by the fact that they are a ‘one size fits all’ treatment and, of course, we are all very different. So, when I qualified as a hypnotherapist I began to write my own ‘scripts’, which I recorded and listened to regularly. I can’t lie and say that I am now a confident social butterfly, but I am so much better than I was. After more than ten years of shutting myself away, I am once again able to go out alone and talk to people I have never met before. Better than that, I actually enjoy meeting new people and I am honest about who I am. I have realised that, by talking about social phobias and my own lack of confidence, I have inspired honesty in others. All those people that I thought were so confident and seemed to know something that I didn’t…well, it turns out that many of them are actually very much like me. We all have our insecurities. We all wear our masks and various personas, depending on the company and the circumstances we find ourselves in. We all have our own ways of getting by.

Other symptoms of Social Anxiety are…

  • Physical symptoms such as blushing, sweating, trembling or stomach upsets when faced with a social situation
  • Panic attacks
  • Difficulty concentrating on conversations
  • Worries about what to say
  • Stuttering
  • Muddling or forgetting words
  • Fear of making a fool of yourself or becoming the centre of attention

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Do you recognise any of these symptoms in yourself? If you avoid or dread social situations such as parties, job interviews, first dates, shopping, eating out, speaking on the phone or speaking up in group situations, then you may be suffering with Social Anxiety Disorder. If these symptoms are interfering with your day to day life, then it is important to contact your GP. He or she can refer you for CBT, which helps by giving you strategies to deal with your anxiety. There may also be underlying issues or illnesses that are causing your social anxiety so it is important that these are ruled out.

My Own Top 5 Tips…

In the meantime, try out these top tips that have worked for me in the past.

  • Before you go out, make a list of all the things you are worried about and then decide how you would deal with the worst-case scenario. When you face your worries head on, you realise that things are never as bad as you first think they are.
  • If you are stuck for something to say, pay a compliment. You make the other person feel good and that makes you feel good, too, putting you both more at ease and often kick starting a conversation.
  • Remember that the other person is probably just as nervous as you, they just hide it well!
  • Take a deep breath, relax and clear your mind. Practise mindfulness or sign up to my website and try listening to my relaxation session. The more you practise, the easier relaxation becomes and the more quickly you can calm yourself down when anxiety strikes.
  • Be kind to yourself. Nobody expects you to be perfect. In fact, perfect people are just annoying! Lighten up and learn to laugh at yourself.

 Hypnotherapy Can Help

Hypnotherapy bypasses the conscious, self-critical mind and goes directly to the source of your insecurities. You and I can work together, using a combination of suggestion therapy, NLP techniques and age regression to get to the heart of your social anxiety. Everyone is different and there is no one particular strategy that will work for every person that comes to see me. You may, like me, have suffered with anxiety your whole life. Or, maybe you used to be confident and you are able to pinpoint the exact time when you lost that self-confidence or self-esteem through a life experience that you need some help in recovering from. Whatever your situation, please contact me for a free half-hour consultation where we can discuss exactly how hypnotherapy can help you become the person you want to be. There is absolutely no obligation to go ahead with therapy if you decide it isn’t for you, so you have nothing to lose. If you cannot see me in person, we can chat online or via a phone call and I can make you a personalised CD or MP3 to download and listen to, as well as give you tips and strategies on overcoming social phobia. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

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